advice for getting over a crush?
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    University of Oklahoma has an organization and there are probably more at other colleges in the state. I can attest to the difficulties of online dating. There may also be LGBTQ resources in your town or nearby, like a social gathering at a community center or something.

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  • advice for getting over a crush?
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    lazyneet
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    Replace him with a suitable substitute on some dating platform. If you're in a major city, that shouldn't be difficult. If you're out in the sticks like I am, alcohol may be your only friend. Maybe get a job or attend a college in a place where gays can be gay.

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  • What Lemmy did to me
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    I've been in femboy mode for the past 6 months, and it has not delivered results. Unless you count some negativity from an old lady on a bus. I've only been using nail polish for a couple weeks, and I did get a positive comment on that. Unfortunately, I'm tall and have stress lines on my face, so it's hard for me to feel cute, and I get into a negative feedback loop because of that.

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  • how do i lighten or reduce facial hair
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    so that everyone knows i'm still cis tho

    I'm still figuring out what a femboy is, and to me it seems to be just a new term for a male or enby-identifying transvestite or girly boy. In my experience as a half-slavic 31-year-old in the rural northwest, when I crossdress nobody knows my gender but everyone assumes I have a dick. I could be trans, it could be performance art, it could be laundry day. (Why the short shorts and mascara? Must be a removed.) All queers are the same to folks outside of this community, so to them your choice of gender matters less than how good you look overall.

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  • how do i lighten or reduce facial hair
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    I shave with specific brands of disposable twin-blade safety razor (Dorco, BIC, whatever gets you closest without cutting the skin) and shave gel. Gel seems to work a lot better than Barbasol cream.

    You can also use hair removal cream for touch-ups, though my facial hair is unfortunately a lot tougher than hair removal cream alone can handle.

    I hear that epilators (basically like an electric razor that goes a little deeper) work well, at least for body hair, though I haven't tried one yet.

    I hear that an epigenetic medication (not HRT) reduces the thickness of non-scalp hair to the genetic level you would have without androgens, but other factors like a history of shaving and your specific ethnicity may reduce the de-hairing effect. Many cis women shave.

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  • New flag possibly? But explanation.
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    I don't know why people are downvoting this. Thanks for reviving a dead board. In the same way that BDSM represents at least 80% of the LGBT community (see: leather pride flag), furries and the like probably represent a similar portion. (I might be a rare exception as someone who isn't currently a furry, but I do wear cat ears sometimes.) There are furry pride flag designs with a paw in the center, which I think look better than your design. I realize the ears and tail probably represent a broader range of diversity (like the progress pride flag vs the gay pride flag) but symbol recognition is important when so few furry-adjacent pride flags are currently flown (at least in the spaces I frequent).

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  • C++
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    When you bring threads into it, these exotic features make more sense. I have been doing single-threaded stuff for the most part.

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  • C++
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    lazyneet
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    I've been using C++ almost daily for the past 7 years and I haven't found a use for shared_ptr, unique_ptr, etc. At what point does one stop being a noob?

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  • Pride?
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    I'm sorta male-nb (not especially cis but not quite trans at this point) so my experiences aren't the same as a trans person. Much of the queer community seems to be on the softer side, but I'm hoping to find something harder at one of these events or something. There isn't much in my area, but hopefully for a month the gays will be loud and proud enough for me to strike up conversations.

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  • Building and distributing binaries
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    Thanks. In my experience, Wine and Proton don't work as well as native for one of the apps I'm building, so I will need to either build in a container or say "use X Ubuntu version".

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  • It's been a long day and I'm probably not in the best state of mind to be asking this question, but have you guys solved packaging yet? I want to ship an executable with supporting files in a compressed archive, much like the Windows exe-in-a-zip pattern. I can cross-compile a Win32 C program using MinGW that will always use baseline Win32 functionality, but if I try to build for Linux I run into the whole dependency versioning situation, specifically glibc fixing its symbol version to whichever Linux I happen to be building from at the time. But if I try to static link with musl, the expectation is that everything is static linked, including system libraries that really shouldn't be. AppImage is in the ballpark of what I'm looking for, and I've heard that Zig works as a compatibility-enhancing frontend if you're compiling C. I'd just like something simple that runs 99% of the time for non-technical end users and isn't bloated with dependencies I can't keep track of. (No containers.) Is this easily achievable?

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