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I can make all the sounds, but maintaining a feminine tone is still pretty hit-or-miss. Since I spend all day at work talking to my team online, I figured it would be good to use that time for voice practice. (I'm already out, so hopefully they won't think I'm going insane) I've been slowly pushing the pitch up over the past few weeks to avoid straining, and with a pitch tracker going it looks like I'm sitting at around 150 Hz right now (for reference I usually aim for 200 Hz when training, which I can comfortably manage for short periods). Not quite target pitch, but at least I'm not dropping out of the androgynous range too often. End-of-day huskiness is slowly getting better but my resonance is all over the place. Anyway, how do you all get your practice hours in? Any fun anecdotes? I'm still in awe of all the trans women on Youtube with perfectly passable voices.
I'm so tired of the healthcare system. I work as a nurse for one of the largest and most reputable organizations in the US. And getting culturally competent care is ridiculous. There are only 2 providers in the entire organization who are willing to take trans patients, and I'm outside of their geographic area (never mind the fact I was given a referral by the trans specialty clinic when I explained I don't need transition services, just a doctor that knows the basics of lgbtq health). I know people have it worse than me, but it's still bullshit I can't just call and make an appointment. This is already the third round of calls I've had to make just to get an appointment set up. I think the worst part is I had a job in gender affirming care I was fired from (for daring to suggest we have signs for our clinic, or trans patients be able to call the regular line). I loved the work and the patients, and it felt so good to be able to help people like me get the care they need in a respectful and competent manner. But now I'm back to taking care of old, entitled, and almost exclusively white cis het patients. I hate being part of a system that perpetuates disparities, but I'm stuck because I can't find any way to provide this care without earning another degree. Thanks for letting me vent.
I see a lot of posts near the event but rarely see any updates in longer time frames. Are you happy? Have you had any issues since the surgery? Can you orgasm? Any unique hygiene issues? What are some non-obvious post-surgery things that only become apparent when everything settles back into a routine?
::: spoiler Tap for spoiler So my transition results have always been mid, i am by no means a model and I hate to say it but i hate that. I wanted that, and it didn’t happen. I do have smallish boobs but things like hips, ass, etc never really happened for me. I struggle a lot mentally with this. I have been questioning if HRT is even actually working for me, I can still cum and I do see it being the same color it was pre HRT, it is usually reduced at the start of my weekly injection, but by the end it’s back and I feel like shit. I am currently on 0.5ml of estradiol cypinate taken once weekly. I am unsure about my levels since while labs said my estradiol levels were at 200pg/ml I am suspicious I may of injected late and forgot it about it, for reference I usually wait a full 7 days between my injection and labs and when I’ve done that at 0.3ml my levels were only 90pg/ml. I just don’t know and plume doesn’t seem overly helpful to me with my issues. :::
So I've started estrogen around 3 weeks ago (hooray \(^ヮ^)/ ) but have noticed one thing that is really bothering me. I feel like I could eat the entire day through. I'm just constantly hungry and it really irks me... Before, I had absolutely no issues going with one, maybe two small meals a day (when not at work) and sometimes even completely skipping a day. But now I pretty much need a chewing gum to sedate me from eating all the food that I made for myself for today and tomorrow. It's really tearing on me... Yes, I am slightly underweight (56kg/173cm) but the fact that I am a little slim is like 30% of what makes me pass even just on 3 weeks of HRT... I don't want to gain weight, I don't want to lose this figure of mine, I don't want to waste so much time and money just eating.... I know that this is probably partially an undiagnosed eating disorder speaking but does any one of you have a similar experience? The fat i'd accumulate wouldn't go to my ass or boobs.... I have no chance of getting much of either sadly so it would just collect as undesirable belly padding....
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Paywall removed: https://archive.is/dNW9T >An ambitious new compilation, Transa, will collect music from Sade, Sam Smith, Jeff Tweedy, Laura Jane Grace, and more than 100 other artists to celebrate trans and nonbinary people. The album, which features nearly 50 tracks and runs nearly three-and-a-half hours, will come out Nov. 22 via the Red Hot Organization.
Not a huge thing, just some shoes and socks, and something people won't really pick up on (some Toms). But either way, a friend went with me for a confidence boost and I'm super happy.
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FAQ: 1. Why do you feel like crap? * Brain chemicals plus time, multiplied by the dysphoria co-efficient. 2. You'd pass better if you just dressed like people. * Look, if I'm not dressed like I'm gonna run up the side of a skyscraper, holding a technosword, during a rainy night, in order to kill a god, *is life really worth living?* 2a. Just wear a brand somewhere. * Nope. Earth symbols and brands and such aren't diegetic to how I want to present myself. I specifically want to look like I don't belong. 2b. That makes you stand out. * Fine. As long as I'm read as a girl who's not from here. 3. Why'd you climb halfway up Mount Hood? * Arch-nemesis at the top. Called him and asked me to meet halfway up for a thrilling sword fight cause I'm lazy and it's a compromise. (Seriously though, it was a hike with my wife and I was *removed* bilingually going both up and down and it was very difficult to even make it that far.) 4. Can you play banjo? * Nope. I tried though, but the hand doing the strumming is the one that took the most damage from two strokes. Can't even keep a rhythm. 5. Your shoes aren't matching sometimes. * OH SHIT THANKS FOR POINTING THAT OUT 6. Kids these days don't even know what Final Fantasy is, really. * Don't care, it was super formative to my heart and I'm almost 40.
Title question. My wife is curious about what my new smell will be. All I know is that the stinkier elements change, not sure about the other parts.
Hey everyone! I’ve been taking a lot of selfies lately, and I’m trying to be mindful about how often I post. Recently, I’ve added eyeliner, eyeshadow, and lipstick to my makeup routine, and I’m excited to share that I’ll be hitting one year on HRT in early October with a few updates! Since the beginning of my hormone journey, I’ve taken over 800 photos to document my progress. I decided to start an Instagram account for anyone interested in following along and showing support: [Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/emmature_femergy?igsh=MTVycWJiM3UwbGphdw==). You can also find a link to my full Google Photos timeline there: [Google photos timeline ](https://photos.google.com/share/AF1QipOt7Bzv9yMWX7oacixwR4enuKHAQfd6sF5t8pl7e06HsQYjwpF-lSxFq23JEsVg6g?key=bXE3cGVOOUxFMnVBRnJrWFNhcVpLRElsQVp5cGdR). Your support means the world to me, and I’d love to share updates more often. If this post isn’t appropriate for the community, please let me know, and I’ll make adjustments. Also, if anyone knows of communities focused on timelines or LGBT selfies, I’d appreciate any recommendations. Thank you so much for your support! 💖🏳️⚧️😁 Edit: forgot to actually put in links 😅
Hey all, I currently can't get laser for a variety of reasons, and was wondering if anyone knows if using IPL now effects my potential of getting laser in the future? I know certain things can make laser less effective, but I couldn't find any info about this. Thanks
Hi, everyone! So, I'm moving toward going on estrogen in the next year. Before I do that, there are some steps I want to take to prepare. I'm using an at-home IPL machine now for hair removal, and I'd like to get some voice lessons under my belt as well. The main step I want to take next is _sperm cryopreservation._ My fiancee and I want kids, but I'm not certain it would be a good idea to have a kid during puberty. So, we want to freeze my sperm or our embryos, and I was wondering if ya'll have any resources you could share? I've looked into a few at-home sperm freezing kits, but it's such a big deal to place your fertility in the hands of a company like that and any advice would be much appreciated! <3
Hello, we were wondering if there were any Peritoneal Pull Through Vaginoplasty surgeons in the UK, or if not or they're not good where would y'all recommend going? Not currently seeing the GIC because of long waiting lists, so don't know if that's a concern. We are on hormones though. Also, haven't had any other surgeries yet, should we do before consulting them? Thanks!
Hey all, as I've been thinking about who I want to be and how I want to transition, I've gotten to wondering about people's transition timelines in general. If it's something you're comfortable talking about, how long did it take you from realizing your trans to taking steps to transition? When did you start using different pronouns, when did you come out to people, how long did it take you to know you wanted HRT and then to start it? I realized I wasn't cis a few months ago, and have been growing my hair out and experimenting with clothing. I know I want to get permanent facial hair removal, and am interested in HRT but have reservations, and would value hearing others experiences about how long it took them to know what they wanted. I'm a very hesitant and self-doubtful person in general, and I guess just feel a bit lost in how to go about self discovery here. Editing to say thank you very much all for sharing, seeing how different everyone's experiences can be is honestly really comforting.
Not me, but an amazing pep talk I didn't know I needed! 🏳️⚧️
Androcur 10mg (which contains cyproteronacetate) is being discontinued by Bayer because it isn't economical for them to produce anymore. I hate it. It's the anti androgen that's pretty much the standard for feminizing hormone therapy here in Germany and I believe even in Europe. Edit: here is the email in German that they sent me after I asked them through their contact form: 
So because getting to see the GIC is seemingly impossible, we are currently being prescribed three things by gender G.P (who have become decreasingly helpful over time): - Finasteride (started 2-ish years ago) - Estrogen patches (started 2-ish years ago) - Progesterone (started a year in) Current prescription states: - Finasteride - 5mg taken in the morning, once daily - Estrogen patches - 150mcg released over 24 hours, changed twice weekly. - Progesterone suppository - 200mg taken once daily in the evening We were watching a video debunking sci-show's video about HRT and it said that finasteride is a not an AA and effectively only stops hair loss (which we don't think we had before starting). We have some problems as our chest seems to have either stopped developing or ran into problems and seems to have developed tubular breasts syndrome (they're an okay size but a bit triangular and don't look quite 'right' to us) but we aren't sure if this is because we did something wrong or not? So our questions are: - Should we stop our current regimen of finasteride? - Did we start taking progesterone too early? - Will our chest continue to grow and work its way out of this shape/problem?
I have an upcoming appointment for an FFS consultation and was wondering if there are any questions y'all recommend asking 🙂
We saw The Beths opening for Alvvays last night and it was amazing.
Im learning how to see right now. I've just someone some bags and pillows so far, but I really want to make clothing. I'll start simple, but I'd eventually like to make the things that (imo) are the hardest to get as a trans woman: panties, bras, and pants. Have any of you made these? Do you have any resources or communities you recommend?
Hokay, so. I’m on HRT and have been for a decade and change. This is real cool, except how basically every interaction with cisgenderedists gets me misgendered, and a hearty “sir” or a flurry of “he/hims” levied my way. I mean, fuck, I can be standing there in knee-high boots, a leather skirt, and a cropped hoodie and I get misgendered as fuuuck. “So change shit up, motherfucker.” I do a phone job and my voice is believably feminine in both English and Japanese, which is cool, but something about my real life existence just reeks of masculinity. Can’t really do makeup cause the structures responsible for processing my face are damaged. I can tell what emotion I’m making, but I can’t perceive enough of my face to draw well on it. Also since I’ve had two strokes, even if I *could*, I’d prolly do eyeliner wings like a fuckin’ gridiron player. I got beautiful wavy blonde hair that goes down past my butt, and though I don’t have the manual dexterity to style that really well with buns and braids and such, I can at least try shit other than the basic nape-of-neck ponytail. Also I’m flat as your average golf course: maybe two discernible bumps, and that’s fuckin’ *it*. Also I’m ace as fuck so if they were any bigger I’d get real self-conscious about it. At least I got a fashion sense that makes Square Enix jealous. I’m gonna figure shit out that works for me, either that or I’m gonna keep on tolerating the injustices of the bastards who never thought to play with the character creator. Also I guess they want me to add a photo so here you are. Apologies for my shitty English. It’s fuckin’ terrible.
So it's almost exactly two weeks since my first session. I went to one of the high-power places that needs a medical license (at least in this country), but my somewhat light-colored hair and total lack of pain during the procedure made me really worried. The first week or so showed no progress, the hair seemed to be growing as normal. Then it got a *bit* thinner, or maybe I was imagining it? But no, just today, it's been a whole day and almost no stubble or shadow! About 80% has just vanished (most of what remains is on my upper lip and beneath the jaw). I realize that the dormant follicles and so on are going to wake up soon, but I've still got several sessions to go. So if you've just started and had the same worries as me, really: wait two weeks! I am unreasonably excited about this. Sorry, past self who waited so long for his beard to come in: you don't need to worry about trying to look masc any more!
My doctor read out that the WPATH doesn't say anything about progesterone and then said that even if it’s not understood, I should start it in a few weeks because it is strongly correlated with mood improvement. I’m so glad I have this doctor. She even has a trans family member!
Looking for engagement from my fellow Trans people. Hello, you beautiful stranger. I recently decided to try to resurrect my old FB account after like 5 years to work on some real local community. I purged 3/4 of my friends list (didn't grow up in a trans-friendly environment), and opened up my pictures to start removing things, and... I can't. I can't look at them without it feeling painful. But I also can't imagine myself deleting pictures of such big things - my engagement, years of wonderful dates with my now-wife, pictures with my old cat from before he passed - damn near every picture feels like sandpaper on my soul to see, but even worse to delete. Any advice on what the heck to do from anyone who has been there? Thanks 🩵🏳️⚧️
So today we *finally* got around to reading the instructions for some of our patches (Estradot) and realised they say not to put them in the fridge (or freezer but we wouldn't put patches in the freezer anyway). We took them out but they have been in there for months. Are they ruined or less effective? We started doing it because our other patches (Evorel) denatured once a while ago, and wanted to avoid the same fate with these ones since it's been a hot summer and have nowhere really cool to store them since we are on the top floor of a building and thus it gets *very* hot up here, even in our drawers. So we are wondering *what* exactly is the problem with them being in the fridge and are they ineffective now or will they be okay now that they're in the a drawer and hopefully stay cool for the rest of the month? We have left our other patches (Evorel) in the fridge as they don't say not to.
This is mainly for the women here who've had GRS/orchi, but if you experience these then be sure to see your doctor either way ~ [symptoms of menopause](https://menopausewiki.ca/#symptoms) ----- Please don't judge my story too harshly I have terrible mental health lol. I got an orchi some time ago and when my hormones were tested shortly after, my estrogen was about double what it should be so my endocrinologist reduced my estradiol dosage by half. Shortly after I started experiencing some of what I would later learn are menopause symptoms. I thought they were my body getting used to the changes from the operation and just soldiered through them. By the time I saw my endocrinologist six months later they had become much worse and were pretty severely impacting my quality of life. I'm on a higher dose now and I'm sad to say for me it is not an instant fix. A week later and I'm still experiencing issues so if anyone knows generally how long it takes symptoms to resolve I'd love to know lol. I'm mad/disappointed in myself for letting things get as bad as they have and worried that they won't get better. I appreciate y'all reading <3
Ive been thinking about it fir a while, but i think i really want it. It feels strange still being so early on. Ive inly started hrt 8 months ago, but i really want it. And i want ffs. Its like the floodgates broke open and i want as much as i can get.
Sorry this is a bit of a depressing subject but I've been feeling down and I kinda want to interact with ppl online. Basically I'm feeling down because the girl I liked (I'm not out to her) is very likely into another girl (she's bi). I never dated in my entire life, mostly because I feel like a freak and don't want to seem like a pervert trying to flirt with a girl. I don't know why I feel like this, but it's really taking a toll on me because if even as a relatively attractive guy I couldn't find anyone, how the **hell** can I find someone now? I know T4T exists but there are so few trans women where I live, and the queer community is tiny here. I feel like I'll always be a second option to cis women(*genital preference*) and it just feels bad. I'm scared I'll end up alone. Moreover the HRT is making me crave intimacy so that adds to the pile... Anyone feels like this too and found how to deal with it?
It's super cute, but not so feminine as to contrast my face. It hides the bits that stick out where I don't want them to. It fakes the bits that don't stick out where I do want them to. It's comfortable. It's (a little bit) spinny. I'm never taking it off! That is all.
::: spoiler [TW] Stretch marks I'm so happy about this OMG OMG OMG!!!! I have such a hard time gaining weight and since it was going down I assumed I needed to eat more, but it looks like I was losing muscle and gaining fat? I don't know any women around me who likes hers but I think they look soo cool! Like a nice pattern on my skin. :) :::
OMG! I follow so many trans groups on here, fb, yt, reddit wherever and there are so many of you that if I didn't see where it was posted I'd assume you were just a rediculously attractive cis woman and I'm so jealous!
Hi all! I've been looking into shapewear a lot recently and looking for any input/advice. I think I'm between rectangle and inverted triangle shape and looking to do some tummy squeezing, waist cinching trying to get more of waist and hip pads or something to make a more hourglass shape. A lot of hip stuff also has butt pads, which I already have enough butt I think 😅 is there one garment that could do all of these any kind of decent, or is it easier/better to get a couple of things more focused on doing one thing good? Also been thinking about breastforms, so any advice there would be appreciated there too!
Hi there, we are interested in specific types of skirts (or dresses), namely those that go up at the front and down at the back (especially if there's a significant difference i.e. shorter at the front and longer at the back so the back going down is obvious) and was wondering if any of y'all knew their name or where to get them. We would especially love it if they could have multiple layers but a single layer would be okay if that's not possible. Oh and a request, if possible, since we don't use amazon since they do not treat their workers well we would prefer no links to them, thank you! Extra bonus points if any of them have pockets, but that's a big ask, we know.
Hi! I've been using gel for several months, but a few weeks ago I made the change to injections. Each injection has resulted in some pains in random areas in my left leg, but mostly concentrated in the muscles below the knee. I also started waking up with muscle spasms in the same leg, which is something I used to have before puberty. The pain mostly subsides after a day or two. I suspect the issue is vasodilation which I understand is more common in women than men because estrogen dilates the blood vessels, but I wanted to hear other peoples thoughts. Wearing overknee socks (to compress) helps, as does ice and exercise/movement, which I think is in favour of this being vasodilation. I will be bringing this up with a doctor in a couple of weeks, but I'm afraid he won't be able to help much or have someone to refer me to as competence regarding trans stuff is pretty low here in Norway (also I'm diy). I would like to know as much as possible about what this could be so I have something to present to him.
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