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    Thank you for the good advice! I just talked to him over my lunch, I didn't bring up feeling disappointed, but I asked if he'd be willing to try to do some fun activities over our 4-day weekend. I was an expecting a "yeah, sure" but he's actually really excited about it. I'm going to be planning one or two small things each day, dinner at our favorite restaurant being one of them. I'm also picking some activities that are easy to cancel last minute should he be in too much pain (oh I should plan at home things we can do if that happens, like renting his favorite movie). Thank you again for encouraging me to say something, I have a hard time planning, but he's worth it.

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    I do want to go, but I don't want him to suffer for it, it's not worth that. I'd rather cancel to make him comfortable. For me it's more about doing something special to celebrate the milestone, it feels like our first big anniversary being the 5th, but that's probably just me holding on to some weird tradition. I'm thinking about making a nice dinner with him (or maybe for him if he's still in pain). He's always been the planner in our relationship, so I really want to do something for him to show him that I appreciate him.

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    I would totally reschedule if we could, but it's too late to take back the days off we scheduled. Maybe we'll reschedule way later, but I can't this month since we're taking time off for all the dental work aswell. I feel bad for him being in so much pain, tooth aches really do suck. In the past we would make a nice dinner together (we couldn't afford anything crazy as college students lol), maybe I can ask him to do that this weekend. We always talked about going to this flower garden nearby, or kayaking on the river, maybe I should bring some of these up to him. I was worried I was asking too much to want to do more, but talking to him sounds like a good idea, maybe he'll have some more ideas of his own. Thank you for validating my disappointment, even if it is only minor disappointment.

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    Today is my 5-year anniversary, and my husband canceled our trip

    Today is my 5-year anniversary with my husband, we were planning on going on a camping trip to celebrate. He asked today if it was ok to cancel because a bad tooth had been causing him pain all last night. After talking about their refund policy, I told him it was ok to cancel if he was worried about it. We have a dentist appointment scheduled for him, but we couldn't get in before the trip. He wants to make it up to me by taking me out to dinner at our favorite restaurant this weekend, and I feel bad for feeling a little disappointed. Its a nice restaurant, don't get me wrong, but I wanted to do something special or new for our 5-year. I want to ask to do something this weekend, but don't know what to ask for so last minute. So now I'm here asking if anyone has any ideas on what to do to celebrate, or if I should just keep my disappointment to myself? What would you do?

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    This is true for democratic nations, but they've been feeling the hurt lately as representatives are being bought out by (you guessed it) billionaires. So even when it's the governments failing, it's usually some rich asshole pulling the strings behind them. Who would've thought a corrupt politician would need a sugar daddy.

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  • Shout, Shout, Let it all Rule
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    Oh shit thank you for reminding me. This idea that it's our individual responsibility to prevent climate change rather than our largest producers/manufactures was a goddamn marketing ploy in the 1920s. It was spear headed by disposable companies like Dixie as people were getting more upset about littering, the public thought companies making one use items was incredibly wasteful and the reason for an abundance of litter in city areas. With the companies PR efforts, they were able to convince the general public that it's not the producers of the litter that cause the problem, but the people who use it. We had a chance to kill the disposable industry and we missed it, I hope it comes back around some day.

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  • Lawns suck rule
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    That's actually what my needy Kentucky bluegrass lawn looks like right now lol, most prairie grass lawns in my area are more drought resistant than the "virgin lawns."

    just adding to this cause I found a good picture, really want to get a fine fescue & pollinator mix alone the fine fescue is nice, but the bee pack has super cute flowers

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  • No rights no pussy rule
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    Hello! You have fallen into the tolerance paradox; how can you be tolerant when you're intolerant to intolerance? Easy I'm tolerant because I don't tolerate intolerance. Beliefs aren't equal, anyone who believes in inferiority or inequal treatment for reasons outside ones control should be called out. It is not a live and let live mindset, it's a "live the way I tell you to or you're a bigot" doesn't sound very liberty loving to me. You can dislike it, you can rant, but once you limit peoples access to equal rights and treatment you're infringing on their rights. Any freedom loving American can respect that.

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    I'll admit I've used it for similar reasons. What I really should be saying is "I'm sorry, but I don't want to talk about this right now." Maybe I'll even be brave and say "I don't want to talk about this with you." but it's rare for me to find a person I don't want to hear at all from. That usually comes up because they've already made their arguments, and I've already accepted or rebuttal the points to my own satisfaction. At that point they'll talk themselves into circles looking for justification for parts of their stance, but unable to articulate it themselves. I'll listen to anyone's views at least once, given I'm in the right mindset, but I still wouldn't date someone I don't morally agree with. Life partners should have higher standards than conversation partners, and aligning values is a bare minimum for relationships.

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  • What's the worst example of an anime fumbling the story?
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    This isn't like awful, but it's noticeable. Full Metal Alchemist (brotherhood? I forget who came first) we started great and strong, good pacing, but then they ran out of source material too quickly. SO, they started making it up as they went. I stopped when the general planning a coupe flips to a genocidal maniac, the character shift was so jarring. Apparently further down this path they lose their alchemist abilities and get shot to WWII to fight some Nazis. It was so off the rails, when the manga started up again they completely redid the anime from the beginning. I love this anime, but I have to make a guide on how to watch it every time I suggest it. The second attempt didn't do as well with the early episodes like the first one did, probably because they were trying to catch up. Wild ride, still worth it.

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  • Best sub-20 hour games?
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    I'mma do it, I'mma be the one to bring up Undertale this time (estimated 2 hours, worth a few replays), there's also little nightmares (2-4 hours depending on platforming skills) which is a spooky little game, but not too spooky if you ever play in front of the kids.

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  • Gaming often fetishises the new but many great things exist in the past, so let's strap into our time machines and talk about our favourite games released before say 2010?
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    Thanks for the warning, but I don't mind different; different can be good. I'm excited to see the beginnings of my childhood game, I think it'll be worth the patience. Though, having a hard time finding it, it's not on the blizzard downloads list. I'mma do more digging tho, it's gotta be out there somewhere.

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  • This is my favorite series by Rick Yancey that came out in 2009, but not many people have read it, at least in my area. The language and themes feel almost too mature for a young adult series. The story itself is about a boy's descent lead by his guardian (if you could even call him that) Dr. Warthrop. If you love monsters and cryptids but are well aware of the world's greatest monster, man, then this book speaks your language. If you've read any of the 4 books, SPEAK UP, I WANNA HEAR FROM YOU, please?

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