Ah, I see. Yeah, I thought I was misreading it, thanks for the clarification.

I have felt a similar thing with friends drifting apart, although in my case I think it has more to do with age and being busy than corona.

> but I often wish for more connection with other people

The fact that that's not ok in your relationship sounds pretty bizarre to me. I am in a monogamous relationship, and I have both male and female friends. My gf also has both male and female friends. When she wants to go have some personal time with her friends, I'm supportive of that.

I'm likely reading too much into this, so I'll apologize in advance, but not being ok with your significant other spending quality time with people they care about seems jealous and insecure to me.

EDIT: My reading comprehension is apparently trash tier.

1 guy made a community. He put some shitty posts there that were massively downvoted. He was banned and his community deleted. It's hardly "The_Donald" joining.

That's actually not how it works. Images are hosted by the instance the community is on. Other instances embed those images as links in the page. The image is downloaded from the original instance by the browser.

Yeah, I noticed afterwards xD

That's an open issue on Github. The devs are currently in the middle of trying to optimize performance so the whole network doesn't go down on the 12th. If you know any webdevs willing to have at it, great!

You should be able to federate with all available communities by default.

The trick is that your instance will not pull in all communities by default. Once 1 person subscribes to a community (a bit tricky for the first time, see here), all users on your instance will start seeing that community in their "All" feeds.

I don't think there's an easy straight-forward answer to that. This is one of those things that's gonna have to be the result of a process of trial, error and waiting for new solutions and development.

One thing that might happen is something like Foundry's server hosting ecosystem, where you have companies that specialize in hosting just Foundry as easily and simply as possible (I.E: moltenhosting). If that happens, then anybody setting up a new server is just a small payment away.

I didn't even know that was a thing. Subscribed!

Can definitely be done. Just need someone to do it. I need to read more of the documentation and figure out how all this works before contributing, I don't want to waste the dev's time coaching a newbie. That's the last thing they need right now.

Yes, it's a known issue. The devs are absolutely slammed with optimization issues, and this will probably get addressed at some point.

Under extreme server load, is it acceptable to not show the comments and return just the posting - and inform the user via a stub comment that says they should return in a few minutes?

From a user perspective, I think returning a small number of comments (maybe top 10)? would be way better than none (followed by some "Server is under extreme load try later" message). It at least gives the user a general idea of the vibe while minimizing load.

And I guess it did. Interesting.

Hi there! Saw your post on new

Hello from Lemmy!

Definitely yes on lemmy in general, definitely no to lemmy.ml. Pick a server you like the rules & admin for, maybe ask the admin directly, and direct everyone to that server. That way you can also host the PF2E community on that server.

Things are already getting way too centralized on lemmy.ml, we need to spread out a bit

True, but I agree with lemillionsock's core point. Nothing short of Reddit pulling the plug on the servers will cause 430 million monthly active users to shift in any short time-frame. However, what is likely to happen is a sharp decline in quality as the core content contributors move on, then a slow gradual decline as the remaining users go "Where'd all the content go?".

Right now, there is no import/export. It's a known useful feature, but the devs have no time to work on it (I've been following all the optimization work they've been doing on github, I don't know if they sleep). You'll have to start over atm, sorry.

Yup, but this is early days yet. As issues get filed on the github and more contributors step in to accomplish stuff, things will improve.

Hi all, wandering around random small Lemmy servers seeing if I can be of use. To pull communities into your instance, you need to first have someone subscribe. Useful picture in this comment, but basically you go to "Communities" at the top, and start a search with the full URL of the community you want (https://lemmy.ml/c/lemmy, for example) and change "Communities" to "All" in the search options.

Once you've clicked through to the community and subscribed, it'll be pulled in forever. If you want to dig around for communities to subscribe to, go to the community finder.

Good luck, and see you around Lemmy :)